Relationships

Relationships

It’s funny how I see and hear about so many relationships pretty much falling to pieces and to be honest it sort of makes me understand how strong my very own relationship is since the reasons for some of those break-ups of other couples that I have seen and heard of are really quite petty to be honest. Relationships in my opinion are hard to make and extremely easy to break, it’s quite strange how people let them go so easily as well with spur of the moment decisions completely hasty and out of anger towards that other person for that particular period of time, personally I can admit to having been that hasty with the words I’ve been saying in the recent past and there comes a point of time when one begins to realize whether venting your feelings in that way was really worth it, especially when you don’t realize what you’re saying and you’re just saying it to make your self feel like you’ve vented what ever was anger or emotions inside you but then you end up figuring out that you really were slashing the other person to bits with every single word and then it hits you real hard all of a sudden to the point of not knowing what to do really.

In my personal opinion the only real way to fix a broken relationship is to drop the ego’s and somehow search deep inside your soul whether you’d be happier with or without that significant person in your life and if you still do want them, you really just have to somehow find it in your soul and somehow pull out a thing called forgiveness and put the negative things in the past if you really want to get a move on things in the future, sticking on to the negative things in the past is just going to end up digging up a bunch more debates and ghosts in ones closet that really are not needed… Lies are usually the cause for most break ups and I personally feel that they can destroy any sort of a relationship between anyone and despite the fact it’s really unavoidable to lie at times in order to make things a tad easier on oneself, inevitably in the end you end up getting caught between a bunch of several lies that you really have no where to turn or to go. I still really haven’t figured out why people lie about being unfaithful to each other, although from what I have figured out, I suppose it’s either because they’re scared of losing that person or those people due to the fact that they’re emotionally attached to them or perhaps they do it for the adrenalin rush of just knowing they can have any person they want… I do also suppose there are some people who are just too bloody stupid to really know what they’re even doing in the first place.

I have a couple of words of advice to all you ladies and lads out there… I’m going to start of with my advice to the ladies first since I’ve obviously and hopefully managed to understand the opposite sex better than 50% of the guys out there and probably better than some women understand themselves.

There are 4 kinds of women in my opinion… [You might think that I’m being a tad biased here in judging women in general in just 4 different ways, but the truth of the matter is that despite the fact that every one is different, when you break it down into the simplest of forms, in my opinion at least there really are only 4 kinds of women]

1. The kind that know what they want whilst also knowing what’s done and what’s not done in a relationship in order to make it last successfully for a lifetime. (I’m quite happy to say that my girl comes from this group).


2. The kind that know what they want whilst also being complete bitches at the same time. (Let’s just say I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with this lot in the past, psst… this bunch is generally easy to get with most of the time).

3. The kind that really don’t know what they want and even what they want the next moment isn’t what they REALLY do want and are really quite fickle minded for about 99% of the time. (Things really can go both ways this bunch… It’s a 50/50 thing here).

4. The kind that are really too scared to get into a relationship or are too conservative to have one. (Don’t even go here unless you’re really brilliant at changing peoples perspectives on things).

Let’s begin with my personal advice to them,

· The first group really need no advice in my opinion as it’s obvious that they really could successfully manage to get any guy that they want and hold them down into a successful relationship

· The second group on the other hand in my opinion should probably either get used to being labeled as bitches and if not, they really ought to get their head in the right place before it’s too late cause if they do it wouldn’t be too hard for them to get it in there and stick it in with the first group, all it takes it a bit of perspective changes on their part.

· The third group really ought to concentrate more on just taking some time out and figuring out what makes them happy in life since most of them really do have a shot at something good if they just begin to understand what they want from not only other people but also themselves, if not there’s always the Britney Spears route to take.

· The fourth group really ought to get out there more and figure out what they’re missing, Perhaps a previous bad experience locked them into the cell they’re in, but I personally feel that even if one does go through bad experiences in the past it only is for something better that’s about to come around the corner.. The point is to never give up. And as for the ones who are too conservative, get out more! Before you’re in your 40’s and are still living with your parents and by their rules.

Okay then, lets move on to the lads now, I’m not going to do the whole characterization thing here due to the fact that I simply haven’t had any previous experiences with them (HAPPY REALIZATION!!! I don’t slant both ways)… But from my very own critical way, this is what I have to say about them and personally advice them.

Most guys do know how to keep a relationship but some of them really don’t know how to put it across due to the fact that they thing they’d be letting their masculinity down by being honest with their feelings and end up looking either bloody stupid or just plainly like a pervert, face it... it’s hard to understand women but fuckin’ try at the very least… A message to most of the guys out there, stop making us look so bloody bad. Getting back on topic... As for the guys who don’t value and treat their women or women in general like pieces of shit really by cheating on them whilst finding some sort of remote pleasure from it and being congratulated for their achievements as well being titled as a player by their posse or by physically hurting them in order to have some sort of dominance or power advantage over them should really get their dicks castrated, Personally I have faltered in the past due to being human and having and ego and being a tad over dominant but I did regret the mistake I had made hugely after I made it but there always is time to change in my opinion.

In the end, life’s what you make of it and so are relationships… The choices are in your hands really.

I’m outtie. Peace.